My dears, I must tell you this
Sometimes
It really is
someone else’s fault.

Of course
you must look first
to see if you have added to the problem
but don’t go crazy with this

If you constantly blame yourself
for what others have done
stop
and stop
making excuses for another person’s bad behavior

You can live better than this

You can start by giving yourself a break
take a breath
take breathing room
Soon you will be able to fly.